How do i meet other gay people?

Just about everyone of these gay websites center around sex and it seems nearly impossible to meet someone for pure friendship and dating. The club scene is horrible with a bunch of feminine guys(no offense just not my type) and drugs and very clicky and you start to see the same people. I dunno what to do. Im very masculine, good-looking(no model but im not ugly lol), and getting my education. Noone suspects im gay so people dont come up to me in public and i dont know how to tell if someone is checking me out. Its tough being gay sometimes its alittle depressing being in a str8 society that shuns anything outside its norm.

How do i meet other gay people?
yahoo personals or gay.com maybe even craigslist





you can just put pretty much your question above into an ad. lots of people are looking for friendship and dating.
Reply:Try telling people in your community and school system. You'll be suprised how many will come around.
Reply:Look for a church that accepts gays. Our church is awesome and there are more young gays showing up every month. My gf and I are friends with another gay couple and our daughters are BFFs. Yeah,stay away from the clubs and come out at school ONLY if you feel safe doing so. Also, try googling something like " Local Gay Teens". It may have groups or something that meet once in awhile. Good luck sweetie. ; D
Reply:JJ,





If you have an LGBT Community Center in your area contact them and see what LGBT organizations and groups are available.





Many communities are getting to have their annual Pride festivals and parades and volunteers are always needed to assist and its a good way to meet people.





Check interpride.org's 2008 calendar for the pride activities in your area.
Reply:You dont seem to represent the typical gay pretty boy image. Most gay men I have met have very feminine traits so I think it is going to be very difficult.





Are you sure that you are gay - my ex. was bi-curious and attracted to men but had never actually acted on those feelings.
Reply:I found my girl on myspace, but maybe we got lucky. There are other sites like meetup.com that can help you connect with others in your area that are not about the club scene.





If you have a local gay bookstore, they may have a community bulletin board where they have info about local goups like book clubs, kite flying, anything you are interested in etc. that way you can meet cool non-club scene people.





Also, community groups can help. My girlfriend and I are involved in a gay/lesbain community group and we are always doing things like going to concerts and stuff with a big bunch of people, so you can meet people just as friends first.
Reply:yes the club scene can be a bit bad, i lived and worked in it for 15 yrs and got a bit lost. but stay true to your self and let your friends know and people around you and if you think someone likes you or you like someone then ask them out for a coffee or dinner or the flicks! nothing ventured nothing gained! and don't listen to the small minded people of this world!
Reply:i feel the same way as you.. everything in time will come.

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